BECAUSE OF HATE, REVENGE, ANGER AND JEALOUSY

ADOPTION IS FOR UNWANTED CHILDREN

Please don't do this to your babies. Adoption is for unwanted children. These children are loved by our whole family, just like the rest of the children in our family. In the states of Georgia and Alabama they have programs to help convicted felons stay in touch with their children. They have programs for men that don't want to pay child support and see their children, to understand what they need to do. In both states they help all kinds of situations to reunite with their children. Alabama even has a section on their website that says, “WANT TO SEE YOUR CHILD, TAKE THAT FIRST STEP, MAKE THAT FIRST PAYMENT AND WE WILL HELP YOU REUNITE WITH YOUR CHILD” BUT, if you do not know what to do, and no one lives in the original state anymore, and you get behind on child support, and you are injured (twice) your children are doomed. The father of these children did step up to the plate and start paying his child support before the adoption was ever filed, and since Sept. of 2003 he is still paying, has not missed a month. The first attorney we had told my son after we received the first ruling that he did not have to pay child support anymore, but we are fighting it, and he is still paying, cause he has finally gotten on his feet after their mother left him, and because he loves them with all his heart. Yes, the money in this case and any other case is very important, but when a man honestly cannot help his situation, don't hurt your babies and take their Daddy away from them. These children need the love of their Daddy, especially when that Daddy loves them with all of his heart. No one can replace that love. A stepparent can add love to their life, but they cannot take the place of their Daddy, especially when those children already know their Daddy and loved him with all their itty-bitty heart (as Christy used to say). These girls have enough love in them for everyone concerned. If everyone concerned could understand that having their Daddy back will only make everyone's life much better, and they will love us all.

My only thought in this case is for my granddaughters. The pain my son and I are going through is so tremendously gut wrenching, I cannot even try to make you feel how bad it is, but we are adults. We have to deal with whatever life hands us, whether it is our fault or the fault of someone else, but these sweet girls are having to suck it up and act as if they are happy with the situation. I know my granddaughters very well. I have had long talks with them over the years and I know the hurt and anger they are living with. I am not allowed to comfort them now, so they are having to deal with it amongst themselves.

My prayer for all concerned is that someone will wake up and realize they are hurting these girls beyond anything they can imagine. The love they had for their Daddy is still in them and they are having to bury it deep inside. I lived this way when I was a child, I can tell you what it does to you, it makes you appear on the outside to be happy, when all the time you are crying inside. As you grow up you tend to look for what is missing else where, and it causes you to make choices that you would not have made had things been different. I can testify to that as well, I WAS THAT LITTLE GIRL!

If everyone involved in this case or any other case could try to put themselves in the hearts of these girls, and just try to feel what you would be feeling if someone took your Daddy from you. It is wrong to make children pay for the wrong doing of adults.

I am probably the only person close to this case that has lived what these girls are living. I pray that this man their mother has married is good to them, but he is not their Daddy and he never will be. My Daddy Norman (Adopted Daddy) was a wonderful man and I loved him so very much. But, when I was old enough I went looking for my real Daddy, and guess what? He was dead. I had to look down on a grave that housed my Daddy's dead body. I had so many questions, but he was dead. I had so much love, but he was dead. I screamed and cried beyond your wildest imagination standing there looking at the grave of my dead Daddy, and I didn't even know him, I had never seen him, but he was my Daddy and he was dead. No one ever considered what that would do to me. They didn't care; they were only worried about their own feelings. My precious granddaughters knew and loved their Daddy; I pray that God will keep this from happening to them. Please Lord; do not make my babies come to a grave to find their Daddy. It is an emptiness that no one can understand, unless you have experienced it. It leaves a hole in your heart that never heals.

The last thing I have to say today is to the mother of these precious children. Please think about what you are doing. If you share them now, we will all have them forever, but if you do not, you run a very high risk of losing them forever when they do find out the whole truth. You was once my daughter-in-law, you are their mother. I am trying to do what is right for my grandchildren. Their Daddy is trying to do what is right for his children, please do what is right for your precious children. Two wrongs do not make a right. You and my son have both made mistakes, it is time to stop all this and do what is right for the girls. Christopher is doing that. He will do it forever if he has to. I will help him forever if it comes to that. He loves them and you know that. I can only hope that you have grown up as much as he has. I have never been more proud of my son. He is facing this whole thing head on.